Nasty Hospital Staff Caring For Father?
How would you handle this. Yes, once again I am asking my friends in GLBT. Yes, it has nothing to do with being GLBT but this is where I get the best answers to things. Thank you for any input.
My Dad's in hospital. It's serious. Was in ER for over a day before he got a room that's 28 hours. Nurse doing a double shift was soooo mean and rude she was Satan. I mean she went out of her way to say things to me that were inappropriate, "he'll have dementia forever" (he won't) I kept trying to get help from other staff but they were too busy and so I was stuck sucking up her bad negative attitude because I didn't want my father to "pay" in her treatment if I told her what I really thought of her 'bedside manner'.
But I did complain once we were moved and I plan on a follow up letter.
Then he got moved to a higher floor and all is good. But my Dad needs a 'sitter' (nurses assistant) in his room at all times. Various sitters come for diff. shifts. One guy came several times and my 6 older siblings and I agreed he was great. BUT the sitters get hospital laptops they can play games on etc. when the patients are sleeping. So I'm in the room with my brother and this sitter, we are making small convo. My brother left and forgot something so I jumped up to go after him and I saw the laptop the sitter had, and he was reading PORN. I mean in BIG BOLD LETTERS were NASTY NASTY headlines. No pix, just hardcore text. This 'sitter' just came home from Iraq serving and was going back in a few months to serve. I sat back down in the room and he had his laptop and was continuing conversation but I felt completely uncomfortable knowing he's reading stuff like "I love your nasty twat" . So, went and told the nurse. I said that he seemed nice but that is inappropriate and I wanted a new nurses assistant/sitter. So, when he went on lunch break she dismissed him from his duty. She didn't even tell him why she just said, "the family said you are not a good match for them." I am pissed that she didn't tell him.
Some friends say I should have just told him, and others say I handled it right. I feel glad that he is gone, because if he was doing that while we were there what would he do when we weren't???
This is alledgedly a very good, reputable hospital. And I don't want to seem like I'm 'against' the staff. But I want qualified care for my Dad.
What do you think? Thanks.
Tags: "caring", Father, Hospital..., Nasty, Staff
November 13th, 2009 at 10:05 pm
You did the right thing. I feel so bad for what you are
going through, as if you aren’t under enough stress.
I think you handeled it perfectly. Like you said, you
don’t want to make a scene in front of your father as
he would be upset. You were right to tell on the sitter
but I agree that they should have told him why. I disagree
with the man who said it was ok. It is very unprofessional
and what type of person would have the nerve to do that
with the family in the room? It does make you wonder what
he does when no one is there. I think you handled it great,
your dad is lucky to have you to watch out for him. God Bless
November 14th, 2009 at 12:30 am
It was purely by accident that you found out what he was doing on his computer, and as long as he wasn’t doing anything but looking, what difference does it make?
November 14th, 2009 at 2:08 am
Hello Love, You did the right things by not approaching him up front because he would have gotton an attitude I’m sure I am an aid that is not appropriate his full attention should have been on your father not looking at porn. He was the one not being professional and it was very direspectful to him and the family. Im sorry about what you had to go through Love but everything will be alright not all people are trash.
Hope this Helps You
-Love danni