Should I help my friend who isn't helping me?
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My close friend is also my housemate. We're both in medical school, just starting out our 3rd year, which means we've started our clinical years and have to go to the hospital and clerk cases. The more cases, the more experience we get and hopefully, the better we'll be.
I've noticed that whenever my friend goes to the hospital to clerk a case, she doesn't invite me. I invite her whenever I go, but she doesn't invite me. If I get a chance to follow a senior or get a senior to teach me, I invite her. She got a chance to scrub in and watch a surgery (a chance I would have killed for since I'm interested in surgery) and she never said a word. Not even after.
I just want an opinion on whether I should keep inviting her to go to the hospital with me to clerk cases when she clearly never invites me to go to the hospital with her? Should I keep helping her get more experience when I have way less experience than her?
Should I keep being the bigger person here and just keep inviting her in the hopes that she'll also invite me someday? Do unto others as you want others to so unto you? Or just stop inviting and helping her because it's clear she's not going to help me?
Tags: discount medical, housemate, medical school
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
If it’s clear that she isn’t going to help you, I guess you should stop helping (or inviting) her. And, if she gets mad by this, then just remind her that she did the same!
OR
You can try talking to her about this, why she didn’t invite you. Confront her. I think she’s jealous of you. Maybe :/
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
She may feel threaten by you and that is why she doesn’t want to share the lime light with you. I would not continue to invite her, she is being a leech.
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
talk to her about it
ask why she doesnt invite you
that would seem the logical thing to do
maybe she just doesnt think to do it
and once she knows you are up for any experience at all she may invite you
seems silly to jump one way or another without Knowing the reasons why
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
I would ask her why she doesn’t invite you. then go from there.
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
Ask her. If you don’t want to do that I guess you can be the bigger person & keep inviting her. She’ll see through but if she doesn’t then I’d probably stop, but yeah, that’s me. Good luck. :}
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
Take your friend out to coffee or a drink and talk to her about this. Be kind and gentle and keep in mind that she may not realize she’s being rude. Do not have this talk at home, if things were to get heated your home would all of a sudden become a battle ground. In open public, people are more likely to be civil and not make scene. Better to go to a place you’ve never been to and never plan to go to again so whatever happens( fresh slate or disaster) stays there. However I’m not done with you yet,lol. Your friend may be looking at you as a competitor, inviting you along may make her feel like she’s giving you leg up to beat her and and giving her an edge when you invite her to your cases.
May 19th, 2011 at 6:32 am
Ok dear have you marked how is her behaviour with you on different stage. Means when you are off hospital do you have time to be together and yes than how does she behaves with you ? If its same way than she seems to be selfish to just think about herself and dont care for even them who actually cares for her. Sorry to say but she being not nice at heart, may turn out to be a doctors who just work for the sake of money. You than need not be so kind to her because you are wasting your kindness towards somebody who dont reverse it and dont deserves it.